Thou shalt not lie
Since the beginning of time have mankind used the lie as a way to defend itself. The caveman probably used it when he came home without food to his wife and wife probably used it if she wasn’t home in the cave, when the husband came home from hunting, but somewhere else. (For example in the next cave…)
Today you might think that we should be further off than the cave, but if truth be told we are not a bit further than that. We still lie when we end up in situations where we do not want to, or cannot, tell the truth. You can easily say that we are not as developed as we think we are.
Personally I think lying is wrong in any form – big as small. I try not to lie and if I end up in a situation where I have to lie if I open my mouth I prefer to keep my mouth shut. A ‘little white lie’ might not lead to something worse, even if it has happened, but it is still a lie, just like a big lie.
They say that a big lie is easier to believe than a small one. This might sound strange but I think there is a lot to it. A big lie is often very hard to believe and therefore people think that it has to be true. Why would you lie about a thing like that?
My philosophy is that if you do not have anything good to say you might as well be quiet. People who lie I do not have any respect for, and if a friend cannot tell the truth then he or she is not a friend. But, you are probably thinking, a small lie is not that bad? No, it is not, but it is so easy to end up in the mythomania swamp if you start with small, innocent lies and that is why I prefer to tell the truth or be quiet.
But one can absolutely not forget the difference between mythomania and imagination. A mythoman is a person who lies unrestrained and does not mind to add extra to spice up something that actually is pretty down-to-earth. It can actually go so far that the mythoman starts believing his, or hers, own lies.
A person with a vivid imagination also spices up the stories but the difference is that he, or she, knows that it is all made-up and never claims it to be true.
Men have during all times wondered how their wives find out that they are cheating and I think the same thing goes for the women who have someone on the side. I can reveal two of the secrets.
When the man, or woman, come home late at night, or morning, their partner asks them where they have beem. The fault that most people do here is that they repeat the question; “Where I have been?”. This is a sign that the person did not expect being caught and cannot find a good excuse. There are also those who wash their hands or wet their lips unusually much when their partner ask the question. Also this is a clear sign that they’re lying.
If you want to be sure that your partner does not find out I suggest that you make up emergency lies. Remember that the more incredible the lie is, the bigger the chance is that your partner believes you. I mean, who many times have you not heard “but honey, I had to work late”. Noody believes it anymore since it is far too usual and far too obvious. Instead say something like “the boss took us all skydiving” and pray to the gods that your partner does not call and check with your boss. Or to make it even more safe say “the boss took us all skydiving and here is her/his number if you don’t believe me” and then give your partner the number to your best friend who of course is there for you. Or why not live dangerously; the number to your mistress?
If I have to be completely honest I do have a tiny ‘cheating system’ when it comes to lies. I prefer, as stated, not to lie and try not to, but in certain situations you have to open your mouth and then I prefer to ‘not tell the whole truth’. You remove some well chosen parts of the truth but do not add anything new. For example ‘I failed my test’ is ‘I did not do very well on my test’. This is true and I have not twisted the truth or lied.
There are those who say that ‘a liar must possess a good memory’ and that is very true. If the liar cannot remember what he, or she, uttered the chance is very big that the environment does and then he will reveal him- or herself.
Today you might think that we should be further off than the cave, but if truth be told we are not a bit further than that. We still lie when we end up in situations where we do not want to, or cannot, tell the truth. You can easily say that we are not as developed as we think we are.
Personally I think lying is wrong in any form – big as small. I try not to lie and if I end up in a situation where I have to lie if I open my mouth I prefer to keep my mouth shut. A ‘little white lie’ might not lead to something worse, even if it has happened, but it is still a lie, just like a big lie.
They say that a big lie is easier to believe than a small one. This might sound strange but I think there is a lot to it. A big lie is often very hard to believe and therefore people think that it has to be true. Why would you lie about a thing like that?
My philosophy is that if you do not have anything good to say you might as well be quiet. People who lie I do not have any respect for, and if a friend cannot tell the truth then he or she is not a friend. But, you are probably thinking, a small lie is not that bad? No, it is not, but it is so easy to end up in the mythomania swamp if you start with small, innocent lies and that is why I prefer to tell the truth or be quiet.
But one can absolutely not forget the difference between mythomania and imagination. A mythoman is a person who lies unrestrained and does not mind to add extra to spice up something that actually is pretty down-to-earth. It can actually go so far that the mythoman starts believing his, or hers, own lies.
A person with a vivid imagination also spices up the stories but the difference is that he, or she, knows that it is all made-up and never claims it to be true.
Men have during all times wondered how their wives find out that they are cheating and I think the same thing goes for the women who have someone on the side. I can reveal two of the secrets.
When the man, or woman, come home late at night, or morning, their partner asks them where they have beem. The fault that most people do here is that they repeat the question; “Where I have been?”. This is a sign that the person did not expect being caught and cannot find a good excuse. There are also those who wash their hands or wet their lips unusually much when their partner ask the question. Also this is a clear sign that they’re lying.
If you want to be sure that your partner does not find out I suggest that you make up emergency lies. Remember that the more incredible the lie is, the bigger the chance is that your partner believes you. I mean, who many times have you not heard “but honey, I had to work late”. Noody believes it anymore since it is far too usual and far too obvious. Instead say something like “the boss took us all skydiving” and pray to the gods that your partner does not call and check with your boss. Or to make it even more safe say “the boss took us all skydiving and here is her/his number if you don’t believe me” and then give your partner the number to your best friend who of course is there for you. Or why not live dangerously; the number to your mistress?
If I have to be completely honest I do have a tiny ‘cheating system’ when it comes to lies. I prefer, as stated, not to lie and try not to, but in certain situations you have to open your mouth and then I prefer to ‘not tell the whole truth’. You remove some well chosen parts of the truth but do not add anything new. For example ‘I failed my test’ is ‘I did not do very well on my test’. This is true and I have not twisted the truth or lied.
There are those who say that ‘a liar must possess a good memory’ and that is very true. If the liar cannot remember what he, or she, uttered the chance is very big that the environment does and then he will reveal him- or herself.
Honesty is the best policy - remember that before you start lying.
Long live school assignments!
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